Monday, March 23, 2015

Sixth Anniversary!

I've been reading Tarot for more years than I have fingers and toes,  but I only thought about creating this blog in 2009.  I've been writing it for 6 years now!  I started by going through the cards one by one,  describing them individually.  When you first start with Tarot,  you learn the 78 images and how to interpret them. But the cards really come alive when you read how they interact together, like musical notes that become so much more interesting when you play another note along side it.

This February the anniversary of my blog snuck by me in a fog of snow (it was such a cold February,  wasn't it!)  And I just looked and realized I hadn't written my customary anniversary blog. So here it is,  a few weeks later but better late then never at all.   That's one thing life has taught me - not to let the perfect get in the way of the good (and I was such a perfectionist,  I had to learn that lesson several times!)

By Giedra Purlytė-Mažrimienė

I started this blog to show people that I am knowledgeable about Tarot and I keep writing it because my clients tell me that they often turn to it between readings,  to catch up with me and to read what is catching my interest.  I get lots of lovely feedback,  so I'm happy to continue with it. This blog is written with a lot of love and care.  It should answer most of your tarot questions.  If you want to know anything just type in the word in the upper left hand corner (near the B) and there is sure to be a blog piece about it (eg Wands will bring up the entire Wands suite.  If you want to know about a specific card,  type in that card and you'll get information about it.) If you want to know more,  call me and we'll set up a reading!

Tuesday, March 17, 2015

Puppy Love

I had a reading the other day where a woman told me of a new man she was dating.  His biggest sadness after his last break up was losing custody of the dog, and my client,  who volunteered at a shelter,  offered to find him one. She came across the perfect pup and he met her and brought the dog home.  They have been dating for about 6 months now,  he’s had the dog for around 4 months,  and she said that she knows this is irrational,  but one of the things that just goes right to her heart is how easily and often he says “I love you” to the puppy,  when he has never said it to her.  And I smiled at her and said “but he owns the dog.  He knows that puppy isn’t going anywhere!”

Humans are so much more complicated, harder to approach, easier to betray, can prioritize work or family or other foolish things above you.  Dogs are simple things to love.  Though feeling love and saying it, even if it is to a puppy, is at least good practice at expressing emotions.  The cards liked him, and she likes him very much, and we are hopeful that he will speak to her soon of love…

Friday, March 6, 2015

The truth should be enough

So I came across this lovely article on face book, and was thinking of making it a topic for my blog .

May 28, 2006

To celebrate growing older, I once wrote the 45 lessons life taught me.

It is the most-requested column I've ever written. My odometer rolls over to 50 this week, so here's an update:

1. Life isn't fair, but it's still good.

2. When in doubt, just take the next small step.

3. Life is too short to waste time hating anyone.

4. Don't take yourself so seriously. No one else does.

5. Pay off your credit cards every month.

6. You don't have to win every argument. Agree to disagree.

7. Cry with someone. It's more healing than crying alone.

8. It's OK to get angry with God. He can take it.

9. Save for retirement starting with your first paycheck.

10. When it comes to chocolate, resistance is futile.

11. Make peace with your past so it won't screw up the present.

12. It's OK to let your children see you cry.

13. Don't compare your life to others'. You have no idea what their journey is all about.

14. If a relationship has to be a secret, you shouldn't be in it.

15. Everything can change in the blink of an eye. But don't worry; God never blinks.

16. Life is too short for long pity parties. Get busy living, or get busy dying.

17. You can get through anything if you stay put in today.

18. A writer writes. If you want to be a writer, write.

19. It's never too late to have a happy childhood. But the second one is up to you and no one else.

20. When it comes to going after what you love in life, don't take no for an answer.

21. Burn the candles, use the nice sheets, wear the fancy lingerie. Don't save it for a special occasion. Today is special.

22. Overprepare, then go with the flow.

23. Be eccentric now. Don't wait for old age to wear purple.

24. The most important sex organ is the brain.

25. No one is in charge of your happiness except you.

26. Frame every so-called disaster with these words: "In five years, will this matter?"

27. Always choose life.

28. Forgive everyone everything.

29. What other people think of you is none of your business.

30. Time heals almost everything. Give time time.

31. However good or bad a situation is, it will change.

32. Your job won't take care of you when you are sick. Your friends will. Stay in touch.

33. Believe in miracles.

34. God loves you because of who God is, not because of anything you did or didn't do.

35. Whatever doesn't kill you really does make you stronger.

36. Growing old beats the alternative - dying young.

37. Your children get only one childhood. Make it memorable.

38. Read the Psalms. They cover every human emotion.

39. Get outside every day. Miracles are waiting everywhere.

40. If we all threw our problems in a pile and saw everyone else's, we'd grab ours back.

41. Don't audit life. Show up and make the most of it now.

42. Get rid of anything that isn't useful, beautiful or joyful.

43. All that truly matters in the end is that you loved.

44. Envy is a waste of time. You already have all you need.

45. The best is yet to come.

46. No matter how you feel, get up, dress up and show up.

47. Take a deep breath. It calms the mind.

48. If you don't ask, you don't get.

49. Yield.

50. Life isn't tied with a bow, but it's still a gift..

Now isn’t that terrific?  And isn’t it enough?  But in the strangeness of the internet,  the original article I saw thought that having a 50 year old woman write this was not sufficient,  so they made her 90.
And then they put a photo of a really fabulous looking 90 year old next to it. But my fashion savvy friends recognized the photo and said that’s not Regina, it’s Iris Apfel,  New York Fashionista.
And I thought about the vagaries of the internet,  how it finds something perfectly good and then to dress it up more, covers it in tinsel and makes it false.   
We have to live in a world where a good truth is good enough,  otherwise we turn into Brian Williams (whom I admired) who took perfectly good truths and then dressed them up to such an extent that they became false.    We have to avoid that impulse.

Seeing the Truth

I read this fascinating article the other day about a writer’s experience with a con man/murderer and how he heard the wrong notes of the story but ignored them, and then felt so betrayed at the end, when the truth came to light. 

I remember doing a reading some time ago with a young woman, in her early twenties, talking about life and job choices,  the usual questions. But when she asked about her future she drew these cards –

I suppose I could have lied and made up some story but the cards made no sense to me in the context we had been talking about,  and I said as much to her.  I described them in detail – addictive/negative patterns, a dominating, controlling man/situation, a strong sense of being trapped, but if she was willing to see clearly she could find a way out. 

And then she told me that she had lied to me, she was not a student,  but rather a call girl,  and those cards described how she was feeling perfectly.  I had not suspected her of lying, I had no cause to, but the cards… they see the truth even when I don’t. 

After that truth was revealed, the reading became far more productive.  
I was reminded of this when I saw this other piece in the New York times -  Chicago University is asking us if we can spot the liar through body language…   Can you?

Thursday, February 26, 2015

Following and feeling part of it all...

I've been following Humans of New York since it's early days in early 2011,  when a mere 2000 people would like it almost immediately.

Since then it has stretched to new heights,  doing an amazing piece of visiting distressed areas around the world for the UN, and most recently,  Brandon visited a school in New York,  Mott Hall Bridges Academy,  and highlighted the exceptional people working there.  It culminated with Brandon photographing the principal Ms Lopez, and Vidal, the student who started it all,  with President Obama!

I feel oddly proud of Brandon's accomplishments,  as if by witnessing them I am part of them.  The Mott Hall school story has been picked up by the Atlantic Magazine - another favorite of mine.  It's like all my favorite people got together to support each other!

Tuesday, February 24, 2015

When it doesn't happen effortlessly....

A  client just wrote me the sweetest note, as we kept missing and rescheduling appointments - 
I am so sorry - now I can't make it tonight at 8:30.  I know I want a reading - why is the universe trying to stop me??  Any chance you are still free tomorrow at 8:30?  

And I sent this reply - We are definitely on for tomorrow.  I will explain what the universe was up to!
It just so happens I’ve been fluey all week, and gradually getting better.   The universe was making sure I was up to par, and so our meetings never quite worked out.  Sometimes you are all ready and raring to go, but the other person still needs to work on themselves (or get better!) and the connections/meetings don’t happen.  Don’t always blame yourself, you may well be ready, but they are not…

Friday, February 13, 2015


What if you put up a picture and nobody likes it? 
I was thinking about this.  I put up a picture and it got 64 likes, the most any photo of mine had ever received, and I thought, does this make it a better photo? If I loved an image and put it up and it got no likes, would that make it less beautiful to me? There is something subtly corrupting about trying to garner likes,  so that images that spoke to us, and only to us,  appear to become less valuable,  and images that we kind of liked and put up and everyone liked – are they more special now?

I’m a bit curmudgeonly, in that I like to like things I think are unique; if everyone likes it, it loses some of its luster for me.   So if only a few people like your picture, hold it closer to your heart, it means only a few get it,  but those few get you… and better to have a few close, true friends, than a thousand acquaintances.